June 9, 2021

3 Ways to Find YOUR Life Guide

Who do you go to for wisdom? Whose opinion do you respect over most others? If someone immediately comes to mind, then you may well already be connected to your own life guide. Someone who you can bounce things off, and talk to about what you REALLY want.

For many of us, this person is not so obvious to find. And what exactly is a life guide?

A life guide is someone who can help us shape our opinions and thinking on what we really want from our life. Because this kind of clarity is one of the most valuable, yet personal things you can develop. There is not one way to gain this wisdom and reflection, or one source. All of us are different, and our methods to help shape our life decisions are also very different.

If you haven’t found a life guide yet, its not too late. I have connected with many people, and finding the right person, to give me the right wisdom at the right time, is important. My father, my all time life mentor, died three years ago, which made this subject and the pursuit of life wisdom and perspective even more important for me. I am happy now to share this with you.

You particularly need to find your life guide when things are tough in life, or when you really desire change but can’t see a viable way to move forward.

1. Identify your guides.

There can, and should be, more than one guide in your life. Stop and think about the people you know, whose company you really value and enjoy. It doesn’t matter how well you know them, if they have made an impact on you, put them on your list. Then try and pair them with parts of your life that you will want to make decisions on – whether it be about relationships, work or other life choices.

Who matches with what? Can you start to identify your top three people?

2. Set up the Place and the person.

Some people go fishing, others read in front of a fireplace, some go to yoga retreats – there is a state you get in where you feel relaxed. Not caught up in the busyness of everyday life, but in a place that allows you to slow down and tune out. You then need to choose someone to be with you that is a close friend or family member, who really listens to you, and cares about what you think and want. If your guide has a vested interest in what you decide, then it might be harder to be really honest. Pick someone you can relax with, who won’t judge you. I do a trip to the Hunter Valley every year, to see one of my oldest friends who I met at University. While it may only be once a year, its a valuable check in with someone who has known me for many years, and always gives me a new perspective. She is definitely one of my life guides.

3. Find a professional

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Vanessa Stoykov writes for Secrets of the Money Masters, a programme she founded, now owned by tech giant Iress for the education of financial advisers

Until next time,


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