Relationships

Money is one of the most common sources of conflict in relationships, and one of the least talked about.

Here you'll find practical ways to talk about money with a partner, without it turning into a fight.

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Why Smart Couples Still Fight About Money

Money arguments are rarely just about money. They are often about safety, freedom, fairness and the stories each person brings into the relationship.

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What Is Contribution Splitting?

How splitting super contributions with your partner can rebalance the financial scales for families, without needing extra cash.

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Why I Wrote My Book

When a family business collapsed overnight, Antoinette Colbran learned never to take her eyes off the finances. Here is why she wrote her book.

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Can a ‘Saver’ Truly Love an ‘Entertainer’?

A short story about a couple choosing their first rental, and how different money values play out when you move in together.

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Romance Risk Profile: Safe or Sparkling?

A short story about two very different suitors, and how our own money beliefs shape the choices we make.

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The Money Conversation Every Couple Should Have Before Things Go Wrong

The best time to understand your shared financial life is before a crisis. These are the questions every couple should be able to answer together.

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When One Person Earns More: How Money Changes the Power in a Relationship

A difference in income does not have to create a difference in worth, freedom or decision-making power.

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Financial Infidelity: What Happens When Your Partner Is Hiding Money From You?

Secret accounts, hidden debt and disguised spending can damage a relationship well beyond the dollar amount involved.

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Could You Afford to Leave Your Relationship?

Knowing whether you could support yourself is not planning for your relationship to fail. It is part of being an informed adult.

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Blended Family Finances: How to Rebuild Trust After Money Secrets

Five mistakes blended families make with money, and how honest conversations rebuild trust after a secret comes out.

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Should You Combine Finances After 50? Financial Planning for New Relationships

Protecting what you've rebuilt while opening up to a new relationship, without guilt or pressure making the decision for you.